Too old fashioned for coffee

It's been a while, I know...I'd apologize, but I'm not particularly sorry. My life has been filled with a multitude of ups and downs, and blogging simply became unimportant. I am in no way saying it is suddenly more important, merely, I have some thoughts I'd like to share, and rather than make the world's longest FB status, I shall share them here. Lucky you. Now that the housekeeping is out of the way...

There are no shortage of men around here. They are everywhere, all shapes, colors and sizes. My issue lies with the fact that we now raise a generation of boys...not men. Boyhood now extends well into the 30s even 40s. It's bad enough men and women mature at such different rates, but to have the gap increased to Grand Canyon sized, is totally unacceptable.

I met a very attractive, educated, articulate young man at my bank. I spent 3 hours refinancing things and adjusting my financial affairs. Over that time, we joked back and forth, made small talk and I checked for signs of married stench. He seemed clean. As our business drew to a close, I hoped to be asked out for at least coffee, if not a full on proposal. Okay, maybe not marriage, but at least some dark roast. Instead, he thanked me for my time and that was it. Disappointed, I left, wondering where it had all gone wrong.

Later that evening, I was talking to someone, and they suggested I go back to the bank, and just ask the man out to coffee, citing "it's 2013". For a brief moment, I was swayed. I thought, "sure...I can ask him out to coffee. I'll never get what I want if I don't ask." Then I started reading a love story, by a suddenly famous cattle rancher's wife. She details their courtship and the relentless way he pursued her. It brought to mind the sayings of a few of my male friends. Things like, "When a man is interested, he will move mountains to see the woman he wants." Who doesn't want that kind of passion? Why does the year/age suddenly change our standards? "It's 2013" is not a free pass for men to be lazy. It does not mean that I suddenly must give up dreams of someone being so filled with passion, that they can't wait to talk to me, see me, and know me. This "modern woman" crap is annoying. It's essentially women admitting we've allowed men to become so lax in their calling, that we believe the only way things will happen is if we make it happen. The virtue of waiting to be pursued is frowned upon as an out-of-date concept. "If you don't want to end up alone, you have to make a move sometimes", I've heard this more times than I can count. This is ridiculous! Threatened with continued singlehood, because I want a man who thinks I am worthy of a phone call, of some initiative. Okay, enough of that. Onto more serious topics...keep reading...